To wear or not wear lolita?

I’m having a bit of a personal crisis. As some of you may know, I started a desk job some time this year. This “desk job” is actually teaching.

Yes, teaching.

Here’s the problem: tomorrow is the Black Alice-hosted Alice in Wonderland screening. I’ve been looking forward to this for ages! But I also promised my Civics Tutorial class (also known as homeroom class/form class/etc) that I would go with them to the museum tomorrow. I call up my class rep who tells me that the visit is in the morning. Alright, so it’s a simple matter. I wear normal, teacher-ly stuff to the museum with my students, then run off to the Cathay later and join the lolitas. Right? Wrong!

Turns out that the students are thinking of going to the Cathay and watching a movie as well. Now I’m torn. Do I just wear lolita and risk having my (17-19 year old) students see me in all my frilly glory? Or do I just leave off and watch the movie with the lolitas in everyday wear and feel seriously left out?

Man, I just want to wear lolita, but I need my students to respect me too. Will they still respect me after seeing me in frills? 🙁

Fri, March 19 2010 »

11 comments on to “To wear or not wear lolita?”

  1. Talia says:

    I say maybe do more casual than full on lolita? That way you can have the best of both^^

  2. Alanna says:

    @Talia: I’m considering that now… 🙁 Will have to rifle through my wardrobe for some inspiration tonight. Also, you’re up really early! 😮

  3. Sparklewolfie says:

    I am pretty sure that 17-19 year olds can handle a “not work time” look, but if you are worried, I second Talia’s comment about going casual 🙂 Though if you are going to be with a group, they’ll probably associate you with what the group is wearing anyway XD

  4. Alanna says:

    @Sparklewolfie: I’m sure they can handle a “not work time” look too, but it’s the idea that the look we’re talking about is a highly niche fashion that involves a lot of frills! (was intending to wear full-on lolita.)

    I think the problem here is that I’ve been pretty much a no-nonsense teacher… the sight of me in pretty frills may ruin that image. Maybe I should go so over-the-top that they won’t recognise me anyway…. 😀 Haha!

  5. candystardust says:

    I know how you feel, personally i don’t mix lolita with my professional life. I work in a relatively conservative office and presentation is really quite important at my place of work. I would echo the comments others have made about going casual, maybe a single colour skirt/jsk with a jumper/carigan over the top that can easily be removed and shoes and petti in a bag for later?

  6. Rebecca says:

    I think it depends on what kind of people your students are. Depending on how well you know them, you should be able to tell how they’d react to at least some extent. If you haven’t gotten to know them very much, then I say, go for it anyway!

  7. Milktan says:

    At that age, most kids would appreciate that their teacher is human too! Wearing non-work clothes after hours is your business and they should be adult enough to with-hold their judgments.

    You should frill away! No one (especially if someone speaks up about it) should ever nay-say or lose respect for you just because you don’t dress the same as them.
    .-= Milktan´s last blog ..I know, I forgot a title =-.

  8. Littlekobaby says:

    How about wearing wearing a simpler JSK and blouse with a cute cardigan. This way it will almost look like a normal outfit, just a bit fancier? I think you should be okay. I know i have seen my teachers wear some wacky things outside of school, and I never thought less of them for it.
    .-= Littlekobaby´s last blog ..Outfit Snap,Western Lolita! =-.

  9. Elena says:

    I second Littlekobaby’s comment. Wear something classic that could pass as “nice” day clothes!

  10. Emily Jane says:

    You have to be authoritative at all times with your students (firm but fair of course :P)..so if you think that wearing Lolita could impare your ability to be the boss, you have to prioritise your work.
    If you go in Lolita; good on you!
    Love your blog <3

  11. Cherry Alice says:

    I understand you so much ! I am also a teacher, and a sweet lolita. My students know I wear lolita outfits outside my job (I am not english, so excuse my possible mistakes while writing). But I warn them that professional life means being politically corect, with “traditional and serious” clothes, so I show them the example : I wear a lot of little black dresses to teach.
    But I automatically wear sweet lolita outfits outside my job. Even if my students know I wear it, being seen in sweet lolita by them is one of my fears. I know it’s not the same to say “I wear sweet lolita” and to be seen with a big bow on the head, a poufy skirt, high socks, and a lot of pink and frills on you. I love it, but I know I won’t be taken seriously by my students (hey almost have my age) after that…

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