Here’s a post for new lolitas! Hope this helps you, I certainly wish I had guidance when I first started.
- Don’t feel pressured to wear what’s popular now
- Don’t be afraid to experiment
- You don’t have to spend a lot of money on the fashion; but you will
- You don’t have to be a lifestyle loli
- Have fun- you are beautiful!
How do you usually dress usually? Do you go for darker looks? Are you a pink type of girl? Your lolita tastes can reflect your usual tastes accordingly.
As you are flipping through magazines or browing pictures on the net, you probably already have a rough idea of what style of loli you feel comfortable with. Don’t ever feel pressured to fit into whatever seems to be popular these days! The most important thing is that you’re going to wear what you love.
At the same time, don’t be afraid to experiment. When I first got into the fashion- I was more of a gothic punk. My main brands were Sex Pot Revenge, h.Naoto. So when I started moving into lolita because my friends were more into lolita than punk, naturally I started out with darker colours first, more classical and kuro loli.
As the years went by, I decided to try pink, and started getting more into sweet loli. My lolita style has been evolving since then- from saccharine sweet pink, I moved on into brights such as red. After deciding to try mint, I’ve been hooked onto the deco-loli concept, but I’m still experimenting with different styles, even now! What a difference from the goth!Alanna! Your own lolita style can evolve too, so never be afraid to try new things. Who knows? You may find yourself more in love with another style.
To be honest, while lolitas seem to be getting younger and younger, I don’t actually recommend anyone getting into the fashion until they have a steady income. Why? Quite simply, it is a hobby that requires quite a bit of money!
It’s true that you don’t necessarily have to spend a lot to be a lolita- there are plenty of ways to cut down on expenditure. But I feel that it is too irresistable a hobby – every new release makes you yearn for it, every tea party makes you excited to wear new things. It’s really an addiction! So unless you have immense willpower, chances are you will spend quite a bit on this hobby. My advice: if you are starting out on lolita, just be prepared to manage your expenses accordingly and budget well!
It is true that many espouse the lolita lifestyle; saying that being a lolita means you should let pink cupcakes or gothic arches (depending on your own unique flavour!) truly be a part of your life! But the truth is, it’s very hard to be a lifestyle lolita when you have to juggle your other commitments such as work, school and your other non lolita-friendly hobbies… and that’s really okay. 🙂
My friends and I try our best to incorporate lolita into our daily lives, but we know it’s hard because we have jobs that involve us working in professional situations- such as the courtroom, the classroom, the hospital. We can’t always wear lolita fashion. At the same time, many of our daily-use items remind us that we’re lolitas – such as my pink laptop, my BtSSB compact mirror, my cutesy cellphone case – and I think that that’s a good balance for us. So don’t feel like just because you’re starting to be a lolita, you need to jump in and embrace the fashion and the lifestyle completely! It’s okay to not be a lolita everyday. 🙂
But most importantly, have fun! You’ve decided to take your first step into such a beautiful fashion, so don’t be too bogged down by things like expectations or rules or anything like that. Have fun while being in your lovely skirts and dresses!
Things may be overwhelming at first glance, but with so many friendly, established lolitas already here, you know help won’t be too far away. Welcome to the world of lolita!
If you are a relative newbie to the world of Lolita, what would you like to know more about? If you’ve been on the scene for a while, what would you have liked to know when you first started out? Share it with us in the comments!